This is going to be a short, hot post. Because I am boiling.
Stupid headline in Rolling Stone reads:
Pakistan’s “Kim Kardashian” Murdered by Brother in “Honor Killing”
WTF is an honor killing? Why the hell even use that term? Is it to make it foreign and exotic? Like this is something that people do in other countries, in the calling of other religions?
STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT. STOP IT.
Yes, this murder is heinous. Yes, it is totally out of line. No, he has no right to control her. And there is no right he has to kill her.
BUT THIS SHIT HAPPENS EVERY DAY IN THE U.S., TOO.
- One in four women, yeah one of the four women at that brunch table next to you, will be a victim of domestic violence in her lifetime.
- Young women are most likely to be beat up or killed at the hands of a partner or former partner. Ages 20-24 are the worst. Hide your daughters.
- One-third, yup, one in three, women murdered are murdered by a partner or ex-partner.
- From 2003-2012, 65% of female victims were targeted by someone they knew; only 34% of male violent crime victims knew their attackers.
- More than 320,000–yes three hundred and twenty THOUSAND–women each year are abused by a partner.
- Men use rape to control women. 45% of women in physically abusive relationships are raped during the relationship.
- Do you know that men who kill women they know are treated more leniently than stranger murder, like facing fewer charges of first-degree murder? It’s called the intimacy discount in Canada.
Before you go #NotAllMen on me, I know that. So what.
This is about control. It’s not about honor. We need to fix our language at home and abroad. It’s not a quaint custom of a foreign land. It’s what happens every day.
Yes, every day there are three (3!!!!) women killed by a current or former male partner in the U.S.
So stop acting like it’s the other. It’s fcuking us. And what the hell are we doing about it?
PSA: If you or someone you know is in danger call 911, a local hotline, or the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and TTY 1-800-787-3224.